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15 ways to protect yourself when leaving an abusive relationship

Marriages end for many different reasons.  Spouse often grow apart over time or experience irreconcilable differences throughout the marriage.  Going through a divorce is rarely a happy occasion, but many people are able to move forward from the relationship, and often times can even cultivate a healthy and respectful relationship despite the divorce.

Unfortunately, there are some cases where one spouse was abused during the marriage and ending the relationship can be much more difficult.  If you have experienced abuse in your marriage, it is crucial that you find an attorney who has experience with similar circumstances and can offer specified guidance you need during this difficult process.  If you believe that your spouse could compromise the safety of you or your child, you must take all of the necessary precautions to protect your child and yourself.


Couples have many options regarding the process of their divorce, but for marriages in which there was abuse, options are often limited.  Your attorney should have open conversations with you on how to proceed and what you should avoid during process.  For example, alternative methods of settling, such as collaborative divorce or mediation, are not always the best option when there is a history of abuse in your relationship.  It is important to be open and honest with your attorney about your unique situation, so they are able to provide the best advice based on your situation.

Additional resources are often needed and recommended when ending a marriage with a history of abuse.  It might be necessary to seek emotional or physical support for you and your children.  You should never feel as if asking for help is a sign of weakness, and asking for support should never affect your rights and abilities as a parent, no matter what your soon-to-be former spouse might say to you.


You must always take into account the safety and well-being of you and your children, first and foremost.  This often means finding different living arrangements, keeping careful records of events that occur, contacting authorities, or requesting special protection granted from the court.  An experienced divorce attorney can help you with all of these precautions and more.

If you are considering divorce in California and there is a history of abuse in your relationship, the first thing you should do is contact an attorney who has experience handling such situations.  To learn more about divorce in California, please don’t hesitate contacting Trevino Law Inc. at 949-716-2102 or filling out our online contact form.

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